My Submissive Journey.....

                  My Submission this past week

            This Past week, May 14-20th, I found that I was having a harder time with my
            submission. I was Evacuated from my home because of the high flood waters
            in the valley. I have never seen the rivers , creeks, and lakes this high. It is said 
            that they will continue to increase with the warm weather and all of the snow
            pack up high in the mountains still needs to come down.

           

Being evacuated without having much time to gather things and take them out

of harms way and to leave them there was hard on my submissive spirit.

I found myself a little lost with all of the confusion and with so many other

people thrown into the mixture. People I did not know and with having no Sir

around to help  me feel safe and loved.  So I did what I knew and that going

to the cabin in the mountains on the one side of the valley  to where there has

been no problems of mud slides and creeks washing out and running over it's

banks. It seems to be a problem on the East side of the valley where in 2015

the forest fires had burnt so much of the hill sides and was burning for over

two months. 

Being without a Sir to make me feel safer, I had to do everything for myself.

I had to stop and think on some of the things and I had to do all the work that

was needed to gather wood for the fire. I ran out of propane, so I had to use the

fire pit for all of my cooking. There was no electricity there, and had to fill up

the lantern's with oil, so I could have some light in the cabin at night. The night

time was the worst. I don't like the darkness of night, especially in the mountains

and being alone, you hear everything that makes a noise. 

Being without a Sir, this submissive has been learning that she is strong and

also that she can continue on, until she may find another Dominant that 

can make her feel that He is where she belongs to be.

For now I will continue to struggle with my submission, since I have no Dominant

of my own.

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Tuesday's Weekly Research Task.....

                                    Research from Hard/Soft Limits "B" List !!


            Bondage (BDSM) :

     Bondage is the practice of consentually tying, binding or restraining a partner for Erotic,
Aesthetic and or Somatosengory Stimulation.
   
     Ropes, cuffs, bondage tpe, self-adhering bondage, or other restraints may be used for this
purpose.

Submissive Ropes....

Blindfolded and Bound, ready for Master to command....

Bondage itself does not necessarily imply Sadomasochism. Bondage may be used

as an end into itself, as in case of Rope Bondage and Breast Bondage. It may also be used

as a part of sex or in conjunction with other BDSM activities. The letter "B" in the acronym

"BDSM" comes from the word "Bondage". Sexually and Erotic are an important aspect in

bondage, but are often not the end in itself. Aesthetics also plays an important role in bondage.

A common reason for the Dominant partner to tie up their submissive is so both may gain

 pleasure from the restrained submissive's submission and the feeling of the temporary transfer 

of control and power.

The main feature of sexual bondage is that it renders the restrained submissive vulnerable to a

variety of sex acts. The restrained submissive is dependent for her sexual satisfaction on the actions

of her Dominant, who may treat the restrained submissive as His sex object.

There are many reasons why submissive's allow themselves to be bound. Some feel a kind of freedom during corporal passivity, they can concentrate on their inner spirituality and feel at peace. Some submissive's have to be tied up to be free.

Bondage can be as simple to apply, enabling improvisation using household items and little experience. Bedroom Bondage is usually mild bondage, with one partner voluntarily being put into restraints by being tied up or handcuffed .,( this is usually the submissive partner). Blindfolds are a common part of Bedroom play. The submissive partner is then typically sexually stimulated by masturbation, fingering, oral sex, a vibrator, or intercourse. Bondage can also be used for purposes other than sexual foreplay. For example, it may be used in erotic tickling or for sexual teasing. 

The Dominant partner may derive erotic pleasure or achieve sexual arousal from being in this situation. Either way Dominant's and submissive's are usually playing out bondage games to act out their sexual fantasies and pleasures.

This submissive is blindfolded for a Bedroom Scene.

There are other types of Bondage and can be divided into various different types based on it's motivation : Such as     1. Bondage for a purpose     2. Decorative Bondage

3. Torture Bondage   4. Film Bondage   5. Meditative Bondage  6. Public Bondage.

Bondage for a purpose is the best known in BDSM and denotes restraining the submissive or

slave for an ulterior purpose, such as making them more accessible for a spanking session. Bondage for it's own sake is not considered in this category.

Decorative Bondage is the restrained submissive/slave is bound for a decorative purpose, to be used as an aesthetic object, for example : an erotic photography or a form of human furniture at a BDSM party.

Torture Bondage is the submissive/slave is restrained purposefully bound in an uncomfortable or painful position, for example : as a punishment in connection of a Dominant/submissive sexual play. Almost any form of bondage, when the restrained submissive/slave is left tied up for long enough, can be used as torture bondage. However in bondage Erotica or Japanese Bondage photography it is often disproportionally extensive and long-lasting. 

Film Bondage is a form of completely non-violent bondage for aesthetic purposes only. In this form of bondage, the restrained submissive partner is bound lightly and is capable of escaping without great effort.

Meditative Bondage is seldom used in western bondage. However in Japanese bondage (Shibari),it is an important aspect, possibly originally having evolved from a religious tradition, where the interest is in the restrained submissive partner's spiritual situation rather than their corporal situation.

Public Bondage,there were a subculture of gay men who were among the first group to make obvious hints of their tastes in bondage in public. Other groups followed later. Early public displays were mainly limited to the wearing of certain fashion items, such as collars and cuffs. The most prominent examples are LGBT street fairs. Exhibitionist displays are another manifestation of public bondage.

 BDSM Clubs feature semi-public bondage. While the clubs and events are considered private, play parties feature open spaces where play can occur that allow other attendees to watch scenes that are in progress. Public play of this variety is more rooted in social activity and the safe space afforded by such clubs than exhibitionist fetishism.

Bondage features prominently in BDSM scenes and sexual roleplay. It is the best known aspect of BDSM even outside the BDSM scene, and does not require a BDSM-oriented sexual identity to practice. Even so-called "vanilla" people can become masters of the technical aspects of tying their partner up.

Bondage has a sexual appeal to people of all sexes and all sexual orientations, in a switch, Dominant (top) or submissive (bottom) role.

There are also some common fantasy settings in which bondage may be a component. These include :

A) Rape, ravishment and or abduction. Where the Dominant fictitiously seizes or abducts the 

consenting submissive and has complete control.

B) Dominance / submission : a training session occurs in which rewards for obedience and 

punishment for defiance are given. Humiliation is usually involved.

C) Predicament Bondage :  The submissive (bottom) is given a choice between two tortures. An example could be caning on the rear or flogging on the chest. If the submissive (bottom) cannot stand one any longer, the Dominant (top) will start the other. This can also be done mechanically, like having a submissive squat and rigging a crotch rope to tighten if they attempt to stand.

Bondage is often combined with other sexual and BDSM techniques. One of the purposes of bondage in BDSM is to restrain a person in a BDSM position. This may involve simply tying the hands together in front or behind. Other positions involve the use of a wrist belt to anchor the hands to the front , back or sides. Other positions arre the spread eagle, with the limbs splayed out and fastened by wrists and ankles to bedposts, door frame or some other anchoring points; the hogtie which secures each wrist to it's corresponding ankle behind the back and so on. The types of restraints used in bondage include Rope, Chains, Handcuffs, Thumbcuffs, and Belly chains, Straight Jackets, Monogloves, Sleepsacks, Bondage Hooks and Bondage Tables are also used.

Safety is a must !!!!!! Safe, Sane & Consensual .

Safety precautions include : A) the use of a Safeword or a clear way to stop the play.

B) Never leaving a bound submissive person alone.

C) Avoiding positions or restraints which may induce postural asphyxia.

D) Making sure the subject changes positions at least once an hour.

E) Making sure the subject can be released quickly in an emergency.

F) Avoiding restraints which impair breathing.

G) Remaining sober, alcohol and drugs should be avoided.

H) There is a lot of preparation work involved to do a bondage scene or play and the foremost the safety factor.

Tied & Gaged Bondage

Hogtie & Elbow Bondage

Bound, Gaged & Blindfolded with complex rope bondage 

(Torture Bondage)

Public Bondage

Bondage Demonstration at a street fair.

Public Bondage

A submissive wearing a bondage monoglove

Strappado Bondage

Rope Decorative Bondage

Rope Decorative Bondage

Two submissive/slaves in Frogtie Bondage on display.

This is the research that I did as I searched the internet for information on my

assignment for my Yellow Course and this is a good way to get submissive's

to learn more and better what Bondage is all about in the lifestyle

of BDSM.

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My submissive plants .....

                                       This past week my submissive plants are growing so
                          well that I am so happy and pleased.

This is my submissive plant that I thought I had lost from some kind

     of bug that got to it and lost all of it's leaves and then started to turn it branches 

dry. But that it was  not dry since it had moist soil. So what I thought to do is

to try and transplant it and see if it would try to and come back. And Behold it has

it is growing new leaves and new branches.I am so happy that my submissive plant is

living and coming back to life.

This plant is so easy to grow and look after.

My submissive plants and some of my submissive projects

that I had made during taking my submissive courses.

I do miss them.......

My submissive Mango and Pineapple Plants.

This is how I start my submissive Pineapple plant.

From the Top of a real Pineapple.

Trim it off and place it in some water so that it can

start to grow some roots, then after the roots are

good and healthy, plant the Pineapple Top. And

watch it grow as it has in the picture above.......

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Research : What is a Dominant ?

                  I've noticed that there is often an abundance of " what a submissive / slave is " , 

                  but rarely do you see things about what a Dominant is. These are some of the

                  thoughts that I have found throughout the internet , in my submissive course, 

                  and also with my own Dominant/submissive  relationships, of what I think of

                  as I  ponder this question, ..................

                                                      WHAT IS A DOMINANT ?

                  

The  Dominant is first and foremost someone who is responsible for themselves,

someone who has His own life under control.  Someone who has given much

thought to His needs and desires.  He has considered  and understands the 

responsibility of His role and how it affects the life of the submissive to Him.

The  Dominant has the responsibility to provide a safe environment, mentally,

physically and to a degree, financially, if the dynamic He seeks calls for His

submissive to be at His complete service and out of the workforce. A Dominant

should nurture an environment where Trust grows and understand's that His 

interactions directly correlate to the level of Trust established.

The Dominant is responsible to nurture and encourage His submissive's personal

growth, help His submissive to see the path around obstacles, encourage His

submissive to reach for her goals and assure her that she is capable of 

achieving them. The Dominant is responsible to help their submissive back up

should she stumble and reassure her that as long as she continues to try,

that stumbling is not failure. The Dominant is responsible to recognize His

submissive's achievements and provide her feedback, praise and 

constructive criticism.

The Dominant should have a good ear for listening and should become the

submissive's best friend, confidante, mentor and guide to His submissive. 

The Dominant should have shoulders that are available and arms that are

safe. The Dominant should be open and receptive and provide an environment

that encourages Honest Communication. The Dominant should be open-

minded and non-judgmental. The Dominant should be considerate of His 

submissive's feelings.

The Dominant should base His decisions regarding His submissive on what

is in the best interest of His submissive. He should be just as willing to say

"No" as He is to say "Yes", if that is what is ultimately best for His submissive.

The Dominant should understand and be respectful to His submissive's 

limitations, be it physical or emotional. The Dominant should never place His

submissive in a position that could cause her harm in any way.

The Dominant should understand the need of His submissive to please and He 

should provide and allow circumstances for His submissive to meet that need.

The Dominant should see the efforts of His submissive to do  so and make sure

that His submissive is given clear feedback on a job well done. The Dominant

should not take His submissive's service to them for granted. The Dominant

should also provide specifics on what pleases Him or the manner in which

the Dominant would like to see certain things done, if they have such

 preferences.  The Dominant cannot expect His submissive to read His

 mind and just know what He finds pleasing to Him.

The Dominant is responsible for providing structure. The rules have to be made 

clear and concise and it is the responsibility of the Dominant to convey to His

submissive; what His expectations are of His submissive. It is also the 

responsibility of the Dominant to provide discipline when there are clear instances

of misconduct or failure to meet His expectations without valid reasons. The

Dominant is responsible to assure that discipline and punishment is thought out

and that there is something to be learned from it.......and also that it is carried

out and not done in anger. It must convey to His submissive that she is still loved

and that her punishment is born of love and a desire for her to grow as a result

of her mistakes.

The Dominant should be able to love and cherish His submissive and be 

emotionally open to convey that to His submissive. The Dominant must 

understand that His submissive needs to feel loved, cherished and needed

and He should make a conscious effort to be certain that those needs are met

and that His submissive understands His worth and value in the relationship.

The Dominant is responsible to learn His submissive, the way that her

thought processes works, how she internalizes things, her past baggage

and how it possibly relates to her presently today. The Dominant is

responsible to learn her reactions and mannerisms; so that they can be 

better assess what the capabilities of His submissive are ; emotional and

physical. It is the Dominant's responsibility to pry open the mind and soul

of His submissive and He should come to know His submissive inside and out.

The Dominant is responsible to see to it that His submissive is taking care

of their personal health and encourage her to participate in a healthful lifestyle.

It is also the responsibility of the Dominant to care for His submissive in times

of illness to the best of His ability and to not allow His submissive to neglect

her health and well-being at those times in order to maintain the normal routines

and chores.

The Dominant is responsible to see to it that His submissive  is meeting His 

sexual needs. He should be very clear in His expectations of His submissive.

The Dominant is also responsible to see to it that the sexual needs of His 

submissive are being met. He should encourage very open communication

of their fantasies and specific needs and He should also be willing to express

to His submissive His own fantasies and needs. He should instruct His

submissive in the precise ways that He enjoys. Dominant's are especially

responsible for the physical and emotional safety of His submissive during

BDSM play. He should learn His submissive's body and her reactions to 

stimuli. He should be very in-tune to where His submissive is mentally and

physically during a scene. He should provide required aftercare based upon

His submissive's needs and be certain that His submissive does not participate

in activities that could cause her  harm until she is  fully coherent.

These are the thoughts and information that I have found around the

internet of what a Dominant should  be .......

This is the Dominant that this submissive would love to

Dominate Her !!!!!

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It is sad to see that when a submissive does her homework

and research and shares her inner feelings

and thoughts, that no-one and I do

mean no-one every comments

on her articles. 😞

My Submissive Plants

                             Good morning to everyone 💓


               Sorry for not being on all the time and getting
               my assignments accomplished  as I should do !

               This has to do with my struggle with submission
               and  not trying to make excuses, it is my fault they
               are not done...... so I will try harder to do my best .
                 
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                                    My submissive Plants :

This is my African Violet submissive plant and

an new submissive plant that has finally 

started to sprout, they took a long time to 

finally sprout up.

This is my submissive corner in my living room

with some of my submissive plants and some

of my submissive projects that I made 

during my submissive training courses.

My submissive  Memory Bottle,

My submissive Feeling In A Bottle,

and a few others.

This is one of my submissive plants that for some

reason, got sick and dropped all of her 

leaves and started to die, it sort of represented

this submissive's feelings. 

Then I thought let's try to bring her back to life

and so I transplanted her again in new soil,

and cut back all the dried branches and

gave her some water and food and low and

behold, she is sprouting some new growth.

These submissive plants are my special ones,

They are Pineapple Plants and

A Mango Plant, the bright green leaf one.

These were all started from a mango seed inside

of a mango that you buy to eat.

The pineapple's were started from real pineapples,

that I bought to eat and cut off the top of the pineapple.

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Hugs & Kisses

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My Submissive Journey

                                            April 30 ---- May 4th

                  This week I find it hard to focus on my
                   submission, I feel like  I'm sliding away.
                  I have four submissive friends that do help
                   me with all the things going on.



                   My submission with Sir Imran is hard for me
                   to focus on being a submissive. I have not
                   ha   a video call from Master and things
                   between  us just feel different. I want
                   instruction fro  my Master, but He is not into
                   training or instructing me. I know He care for
                   me or why  would He requested for me to
                   come back to Him.

I'm not able to have choices or give my opinion.
Every time I try , I'm told to stop being insolent
and to submit and obey.

He calls me a cunt, every day, in every text or
message, even through Facebook messages. It
feels like it is eating at my submissive spirit and
I feel like I'm slowly dying.

Submission I find lately is hard and it is so much
differently that what I was taught.

                    I was taught that it was about TRUST,
                    Trusting your Master to be able to take
                    you to new heights but to never hurt or
                    push beyond your limits.



                    I was taught that it was about
                    RESPECT. Respect goes both ways in
                    the relationship.
                    It is hard to trust each other if you
                    don't  have respect for your submissive
                    or even your Master.









                                                                             
                  Yes the picture is correct !!!!
                   In submission there is supposed to be
                   freedom for the submissive.

                   While in Domination there is supposed to be
                   responsibility towards the submissive.

                   But in all of that, there is to be LOVE.








                                The Master says come take my hand
                            and I will lead you, instruct you, guide
                            you. I will discipline you also and I will
                            Honor, Trust, Respect, Love, and with
                            open communication.
                    


                            This has just been a hard week for me
                            as a submissive that is loosing herself
                            in depression that her Master does not
                            try at all to get to know what she like,
                            or dislikes.

                             I have been with my Master for just
                             over a year now and in all that time
                            we know hardly nothing about each
                            other and every question I ask is never
                            answered. He gave me one new insight
                           into this D/s relationship of ours that I am

                            there to pleasure Him and that should be my only concern.
                            Nothing else matters.....you are my cunt and your here for my pleasure
                             and for you to give me what I want. Clear, Cunt !!

Yes Master, that is clear...............

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