My Submissive Journey

                             
                                          Today was the hardest day of my submissive and

                    submission journey. I was in a relationship that was completely

                   a one sided relationship. I was taught that Trust, Respect, and

                  Honesty, open Communication, were what was needed in a 

                 relationship from both the Master and the submissive/slave. Also

                 that the relationship needed to be Safe, Sane and Consensual.

I tried to have an open and honest communication with my 

Master, about respecting my desires. Throughout the conversation

I was told to stop being insolent and just comply with His demands.

I was not given any instructions as on how to serve my Master, except

for two pictures daily and to find a submissive daughter for me to direct

and to give to Master for a play toy. These were the only instructions that

I was given for almost a year and then He decided that I needed to loose

some weight. My only weight problem was I had a bit of a belly from stopping 

smoking and the weight to my middle section. But Master before said I was

beautiful even with the belly and I was not to question his remarks. But then

yesterday, that demanding words of " that belly has to go completely, clear cunt ".

Those words cut me like a knife coming from Master's mouth and I felt that I was

no longer beautiful anymore in His eyes. We were together for 15 months and 

throughout this time, I was not given any rules, no guidance, no training, and 

no affection.  Always being punished and I'm not a mind reader, I was just

a warm body for His pleasure, and never for mine. 

So today I made the hardest decision in my submissive life to say 

Goodbye to Master and letting Him know that I needed a Master that was

willing to teach, to train, to play, to guide, to protect, to love, to honor, to respect,

to discipline, to make me the best submissive that I could be a proud and 

adored  partner to train in all the ways that He wanted to be pleasured with.

And then I said, I am sorry that I have not met your expectations and for that

I  am sorry. But with respect I decline my submission to you Master. 

With all my love, honor, trust, respect Goodbye.

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Research From The D List....

                                                               

                 Dacryphilia  (also known as dacrylagnia ) is a form of paraphilia in which one is
                 aroused by tears or sobbing.

                The term covers all forms of pleasure from the tears of others. The arousal is
                achieved when viewing a person in emotional distress. It carries the theme where
                a person ( often a Top in a BDSM relationship ) induces another ( the bottom) to
                cry, or otherwise show a strong emotion.

Dacryphilia may for a form of humiliation in the "pain/restriction/servitude/

humiliation" spectrum of BDSM; for example, a Dominant may verbally abuse

the submissive in order to elicit a tearful response. In contrast, a Dominant may

instead physically torture the submissive to draw tears in a pain scene. In this

way, dacryphiliia is a form of sadism. A Sensual Dom or Dominatrix may instead

choose to illicit tears by making the submissive feel safe enough to become 

emotionally vulnerable.

The psychological aspects of dacryphilia are that the causative entity displays the

power to control the psychological response from the receiver. This form of

power-play therefore brings pleasure, and for some, sexual arousal.

Passive dacryphilia involves a third party who also achieves pleasure in watching

someone in emotional distress, usually caused by the scening Dominant,

though the reason does not restrict the pleasure -- a person may enjoy the tears

of others, whatever the cause.

Dacryphilia is not limited to BDSM and may be experienced by those who

do not consider themselves a Dominant or submissive. They may be 

turned on when their partner cries during a movie or form the normal 

emotional vulnerability and strong feelings of love that may make

a partner cry during intercourse.

Dacryphilia is sometimes used to express the pleasure experienced through one's

own tears, often as an emotional release.

A dacryphilia is someone who gets sexually aroused from watching other people cry.

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Dollification

Dollification is the process of evolving, both mentally and physically, into a 

doll-like state, like a living doll.

The submissive would take the role of the doll and the Dominant would take

the role of the doll's owner, The doll would be totally subservient to the owner.

The physical elements of this kind of play would involve the doll being 

dressed as a type of doll, whether a traditional doll (which would be similar

to the sissy fetish), or like a Barbie doll, for example.

Individuals who desire this process-as well as those who are in the midst of the process 

or have already achieved an end result-may be described as "dolls", and most 

desire as well to be owned. The parties involved in dollification are referred to as

"Owner" and "doll"; this is comparable to a Master/slave or Dom/sub relationship.

Mental traits of a doll include but are not limited to : enjoyment of objectification

and natural subservience, the underlying will to be transformed through one's own

and/ or outside forces into a living doll, ultimately, the capacity to feel/see

oneself in a dollific manner, which the doll will continuously strive to 

achieve and/or improve.

While not all who possess these innate qualities will embrace them, it will

not change that  it is part of who they are by nature.

Physical traits of a doll-in process or complete-include but are not limited to: 

corsets, stiletto heels, thigh highs/stockings, rubber/vinyl/plastic suits, dresses, skirts,

 makeup, etc.... along with all other body modifications. Long hair to a shaved head.

A-cup to DD (and larger), any height, clothed or not, still to feisty-the physical

traits are all relative to each individual doll and its own fit into the 

relationship with dollification. 

Ultimately the ideal physical aspect of the doll is set forth by the doll itself,

an Owner, or a combination of both.

Note: It is important to realize that there is no intention here to degrade or diminish

the doll-particularly, as it may appear to some, in comparison with the Owner. This 

is a symbolic relationship: Yin and Yang. Those who are familiar with M/s or D/s

relationships are aware of the innate equality of such relationships, paradoxical

though it may seem.

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A Submissive's Code of Ethics

What is a code of Ethics?

A code of ethics is a guideline of what is acceptable behavior in a chosen area of life (usually work). Personal codes of ethic are written to help focus a person in their life. They are an everyday reminder of who they are and what they believe.

My Code of Ethics

For myself

I will endeavor to express my needs and desires openly with Master without fear of reaction or consequences.

I will take great care about my appearance as it always reflects on Master even in vanilla  settings where they do not know the dynamic exists.

Remaining healthy is very important to the health of our relationship. I will continue to work towards losing weight and getting active until that time he feels I have reached my ultimate goal.

I will find beauty in serving Master in even the smallest things.

Seeking guidance from other more experienced submissive's is acceptable and encouraged when no answers can be found elsewhere.

For Master

My body is not my own and I will offer it to Master as frequently as I can; for his pleasure and sexual needs.

Master’s needs are a priority and I will strive to ensure his desires are met in an appropriate and timely manner.

I shall work hard towards learning and making habit the rules that Master sets out for me.

I promise to work hard at improving my home care so that Master’s home is always inviting for surprise guests and our comfort.

Take a moment today to try and write a few code statements of your own. They don’t have to be perfect.            Then when you have it all perfected, add this to your Submissive Training Resume.

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My Submissive Journey

                                My submissive journey this week has been a little draining.
                                Since I have been away from Sir for the past month, due to
                                our valley with flooding's, river's a meter over the flood plane
                                area and it's said now that is will increase another meter before
                                it get's to it's crest.

                               I have tried to stay in my submissive mindset, trying to write
                               when I can, especially when I could come home for a bit. I feel
                               I'm loosing my submissive spirit and since Sir requested me to
                               come back ( well the way He does and before you know your
                               back under Him again) .

                               I know what type of Dominant that this submissive needs and
                               it is one that does hands on, one that trains me to what He wants,
                               one that will show His devotion towards me and will Himself do
                               the disciplining when I get out of order or break a rule or forget
                               what it was I was to do.

                               I'm hanging in as best as I can, but the light has got dimmer.
                               Just been a rough month.

                               Rant over..........

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BDSM Relationships

15 Points of a BDSM relationship!

1) Communicate- The importance of this can never be stressed enough. If you are a Dom, make sure your requirements and demands are clearly expressed. If you are sub, make sure you talk about what you need and want out of the relationship. Talk about issues that arise, joys and pleasure that you both experience, things that are going really well, and areas that need to be adjusted.

2) Go Slow- When you are starting a new relationship, or trying a new aspect of a BDSM relationship, take things slow. Nothing good comes from rushing into anything.

3) “A” submissive, not “Your” submissive- Just because someone is a submissive, doesn’t mean they want to be YOUR submissive. Calling yourself a Dominant doesn’t give you the right to call submissive's names, or act dominate towards someone who has never given you their submission. Treat people with respect at all times.

4) The BDSM Buffet- It’s okay to take different aspects of different BDSM dynamics and create something that is unique and works for you. Every relationship is different. If you want to be in a DD/lg , or D/s relationship with pieces of pet play and a bit of Master/slave dynamic, then go ahead! Find what works for you. Experiment.

5) Don’t EVER kink shame- It’s okay to not like every kink. It’s okay to be confused as to why someone would enjoy a certain activity or dynamic. But it is NEVER okay to shame someone for what they like to do (so long as what they like to do is legal, consensual, and safe).

6) No two relationships are the same- You don’t have to try to be like every other relationship. If your rules are super strict, or really relaxed, that’s fine. If you live a 24/7 relationship, or only play once a month, that’s okay ! If it works for you, and makes everyone involved happy, then that’s all that matters. Don’t compare your relationship to others, and don’t make other people feel bad for not doing things the same way that you do.

7) Aftercare is ESSENTIAL- After any scene it is vital for the Dominant to look after the submissive. Encourage them, tell them they are beautiful, hug, cuddle, massage, kiss, sing a lullaby…whatever the submissive needs (as everyone is different). If the submissive is crying, make sure they are consoled. If part of the scene requires humiliation or intense physical/mental exertion, then make sure you re-assure them and give them a chance to rest. Most importantly, make sure they know that you love them, care for them, and want only whats best for them!

8) Keep going over/adjusting the rules- This goes along with the earlier communication point. Don’t be afraid to adjust the rules to meet current needs. As people grow, things change. A rule that once made sense, may no longer be required, or perhaps something that was once strict needs to become more lenient (or vice versa). This should be something that both Dominant and submissive talk about, and all rule changes should be mutually agreed upon.

9) Try to switch- This isn’t a requirement, but it is a suggestion. It’s hard for a Dominant to fully appreciate how beautiful and difficult submission is if they have never experienced it. Likewise, a submissive who has never been dominant may not understand how hard it can be to constantly be in control. Try switching (even if it is just for a half hour play session). It gives both parties experience, and everyone will learn something!

10) Stay Safe- This seems obvious, but it should always be said. If you don’t feel comfortable in an relationship/situation….LEAVE. If you need something to stop, use the safe word! It’s the subs responsibility to make sure they are communicating with the Dominant (especially if things are starting to get uncomfortable), and it is the Dominant's HUGE responsibility to make sure they are respecting all limits, and respond to safewords.

11) Explain punishments- Never punish for the sake of punishing. Don’t just create arbitrary rules just so you can punish the submissive. If you are going to punish, make sure the submissive knows exactly WHY they are being punished.

12) Submission is a gift- Never take the submissive's submission for granted. It’s a beautiful gift that needs to be respected at all times!

13) Make sure you give rewards- Don’t just be the Dominant that only ever hands out punishments. Give your submissive praise for a job well done, and make sure that you give them rewards as often as you can!

14) Don’t make a habit out of acting up just so you can get punished- I’m not saying to never do it…sometimes it can be a fun little game to play. However, if you (the submissive) wants to get spanked or punished, it’s okay to just ASK for it! Trust me, very few Dominant's will turn down the opportunity to spank their submissive.

15) Have Fun! BDSM should be fun. Enjoy it! Don’t take the relationship so seriously that you don’t ever enjoy yourself. Yes…a BDSM relationship is a big deal and a lot of work…but if it’s not enjoyable then whats the point? If you can’t laugh and smile with one another, play games (that aren’t always sexual), or just enjoy each others company, then you are either doing something wrong, or you are in the wrong relationship.

This is by no means a complete list. What other things should be added to the list?

This is not my writing, I was given permission to use.

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Submissive Need

A submissive need indeed

A submissive does not initially kneel because she has been ordered to.

A submissive kneels because a Dominant has entered her world that recognized

 her deep seated need to kneel before another and serve them completely.

But she does not kneel simply because she is in the company of one claiming to be a Dominant.

Rather, she does so because someone has finally proven themselves worthy of her gifts 

and has successfully unlocked her desire to grant them without reservation.

Many submissive's struggle and strain with their own surrender.

They pull at the chains and tug at the bonds.

 They perceive submission as an obstacle to be overcome,

 a battle to be won, a rite of passage.

But I assure you that when a  submissive meets the right Dominant for them,

 there is no struggle, there is no trial.

In the arms and under the hand of their One,

 submission comes as naturally as breathing.

One does not think about trusting the air before each breath.

The right Dominant will not only have your trust, they will be your breath.

 Relax, breathe, and fall into them

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