I've noticed that there is often an abundance of " what a submissive / slave is " ,
but rarely do you see things about what a Dominant is. These are some of the
thoughts that I have found throughout the internet , in my submissive course,
and also with my own Dominant/submissive relationships, of what I think of
as I ponder this question, ..................
WHAT IS A DOMINANT ?
The Dominant is first and foremost someone who is responsible for themselves,
someone who has His own life under control. Someone who has given much
thought to His needs and desires. He has considered and understands the
responsibility of His role and how it affects the life of the submissive to Him.
The Dominant has the responsibility to provide a safe environment, mentally,
physically and to a degree, financially, if the dynamic He seeks calls for His
submissive to be at His complete service and out of the workforce. A Dominant
should nurture an environment where Trust grows and understand's that His
interactions directly correlate to the level of Trust established.
The Dominant is responsible to nurture and encourage His submissive's personal
growth, help His submissive to see the path around obstacles, encourage His
submissive to reach for her goals and assure her that she is capable of
achieving them. The Dominant is responsible to help their submissive back up
should she stumble and reassure her that as long as she continues to try,
that stumbling is not failure. The Dominant is responsible to recognize His
submissive's achievements and provide her feedback, praise and
constructive criticism.
The Dominant should have a good ear for listening and should become the
submissive's best friend, confidante, mentor and guide to His submissive.
The Dominant should have shoulders that are available and arms that are
safe. The Dominant should be open and receptive and provide an environment
that encourages Honest Communication. The Dominant should be open-
minded and non-judgmental. The Dominant should be considerate of His
submissive's feelings.
The Dominant should base His decisions regarding His submissive on what
is in the best interest of His submissive. He should be just as willing to say
"No" as He is to say "Yes", if that is what is ultimately best for His submissive.
The Dominant should understand and be respectful to His submissive's
limitations, be it physical or emotional. The Dominant should never place His
submissive in a position that could cause her harm in any way.
The Dominant should understand the need of His submissive to please and He
should provide and allow circumstances for His submissive to meet that need.
The Dominant should see the efforts of His submissive to do so and make sure
that His submissive is given clear feedback on a job well done. The Dominant
should not take His submissive's service to them for granted. The Dominant
should also provide specifics on what pleases Him or the manner in which
the Dominant would like to see certain things done, if they have such
preferences. The Dominant cannot expect His submissive to read His
mind and just know what He finds pleasing to Him.
The Dominant is responsible for providing structure. The rules have to be made
clear and concise and it is the responsibility of the Dominant to convey to His
submissive; what His expectations are of His submissive. It is also the
responsibility of the Dominant to provide discipline when there are clear instances
of misconduct or failure to meet His expectations without valid reasons. The
Dominant is responsible to assure that discipline and punishment is thought out
and that there is something to be learned from it.......and also that it is carried
out and not done in anger. It must convey to His submissive that she is still loved
and that her punishment is born of love and a desire for her to grow as a result
of her mistakes.
The Dominant should be able to love and cherish His submissive and be
emotionally open to convey that to His submissive. The Dominant must
understand that His submissive needs to feel loved, cherished and needed
and He should make a conscious effort to be certain that those needs are met
and that His submissive understands His worth and value in the relationship.
The Dominant is responsible to learn His submissive, the way that her
thought processes works, how she internalizes things, her past baggage
and how it possibly relates to her presently today. The Dominant is
responsible to learn her reactions and mannerisms; so that they can be
better assess what the capabilities of His submissive are ; emotional and
physical. It is the Dominant's responsibility to pry open the mind and soul
of His submissive and He should come to know His submissive inside and out.
The Dominant is responsible to see to it that His submissive is taking care
of their personal health and encourage her to participate in a healthful lifestyle.
It is also the responsibility of the Dominant to care for His submissive in times
of illness to the best of His ability and to not allow His submissive to neglect
her health and well-being at those times in order to maintain the normal routines
and chores.
The Dominant is responsible to see to it that His submissive is meeting His
sexual needs. He should be very clear in His expectations of His submissive.
The Dominant is also responsible to see to it that the sexual needs of His
submissive are being met. He should encourage very open communication
of their fantasies and specific needs and He should also be willing to express
to His submissive His own fantasies and needs. He should instruct His
submissive in the precise ways that He enjoys. Dominant's are especially
responsible for the physical and emotional safety of His submissive during
BDSM play. He should learn His submissive's body and her reactions to
stimuli. He should be very in-tune to where His submissive is mentally and
physically during a scene. He should provide required aftercare based upon
His submissive's needs and be certain that His submissive does not participate
in activities that could cause her harm until she is fully coherent.
These are the thoughts and information that I have found around the
internet of what a Dominant should be .......
This is the Dominant that this submissive would love to
Dominate Her !!!!!
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It is sad to see that when a submissive does her homework
and research and shares her inner feelings
and thoughts, that no-one and I do
mean no-one every comments
on her articles. 😞
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