submissivelycurious: My Submissive Journey..........

My submissive journey for the week of August 24th - 30th.

This week was a nice and generally active one, not only with my
lessons, but also with activities during the week. I feel that I've been
able to finally move forwards to my new journey that I've been on
for the past two months, since the loss of my Dominant, Sir Imran.
I've had a excellent and adventurous week.

A few of the things I learned more about this week were........

Thinks that all submissive's should know about and they are :
1. Always be respectful and considerate towards everybody, especially
your Dominant. Make your Dominant proud.

2. Carrying out orders quickly and efficiently is highly valued.

3. Trust your Dominant. A good Dominant will have a vision in mind for

what they want for you and sometimes only they will see or know the

bigger picture.

4. Keep an open mind. Be sure to communicate to your Dominant about

the new things you do like.

5. Pursuing the path of submission is a journey of self-discovery. You will

learn a lot about yourself. Embrace it.

6. You need to control your emotions and choice of words to excel in

submission.

7. Make sure any and all of your health problems are known to your

Dominant.

8. Don't keep issues or negative feelings bottled up inside you. Use proper

submissive etiquette and good manners and speak to your Dominant

about your feelings.

9. Don't shut down your brain. It comes in handy when serving your

Dominant.

10. Don't give up when the going gets tough. Find the strength within you.

11. Use your safe words if you feel the need. Safe words are cherished keys

of communication between the Dominant and submissive.

12. Keep your attitude positive and glass-half-full, and your experience as a

submissive will be more fun and much more rewarding.

Something that is rarely discussed about is Aftercare For Dominant's and
Dom Drop !!!!
Do you know what Dom drop is ? What is Dominant guilt ? What is
Dominant fatigue ? What do I do if a Dominant needs aftercare ?

These were some of the questions that I learned about this week and it was
an eye opener for me. Us submissive's think that our Dominant's are all
tough and strong and always in control. We forget to remember that they are
human too and sometimes they need aftercare just as much as submissive's
do and Dom drop. Dom drop is an experience with similar characteristics of
depression that occurs after an intense SM scene. It is caused by adrenaline and endorphin crashes after the adrenaline and endorphin spikes that may occur
during a scene. The problem is that so little has been written about Dom drop
that kinksters don’t recognize it when it occurs, or realize the need for it. One
would think that after care is for the bottoms and submissive’s, but it’s also for
the tops, sadists and Dominants. Tops go through similarly intense changes in
their body chemistry, leading to the potential shock-like emotional and physical
crashes. In the case of Dominants and tops consider that you often have been
expending a great deal of not only physical energy but mental energy as well,
and keeping yourself in check with the responsibilities of your submissive’s
state of mind as well as their physical condition. Do not discount the drain this
can have on a person both physically and mentally. It is not uncommon for
Dominants to find themselves having “Dom drop” without recognizing the
symptoms for what they are. It can be manifested in an emotional drop,
lethargy as well as physical exhaustion up and above what would be considered
“normal” for the type of play involved. It can last a short time or days in the same
way that sub-space can have lingering effects.